Research shows that by the time kids reach elementary school, most know the difference between honesty and lying. But that doesn't make truth-telling easy!
To encourage honesty in your child:
1. Be a role model. Children are good "lie detectors." They notice when parents tell the truth-- and when they don't.
2. Reward trustworthiness. If your child is truthful in a difficult situation, compliment him!
3. React calmly. When your child lies, don't label him a "liar." Express confidence that he will make better choices in the future.
4, Discuss honesty. Why is it important to be honest? Note examples of honesty and dishonesty--and their effects.
5. Create opportunities for telling the truth. Say, "You broke my vase," instead of, "Did you do this?" It's better to say what happened rather than to ask unnecessary questions.
Reprinted with permission from the December 2009 issue of Parents make the difference!® (Elementary School Edition) newsletter. Copyright © 2009 The Parent Institute®, a division of NIS, Inc. Source: Karen Stephens, "Lying, Fibs, and Tall-Tales: Teaching Children To Be Truthful," mysmallwonders, www.mysmallwonders.com/resources/pdf/LYING01PELibrary.pdf.
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